What is your language? And is there any help for you? Or for me for that matter?

I got my schedule mixed up with Hollie’s and the result was that I didn’t get to run. I thought we were running and it turns out she had an Avs game. If I had the Avs schedule on my calendar I’d be way smarter. She has season tickets. The girl is a rabid sports fan. I know, that’s supposed to be avid sports fan but she’s pretty rabid about her sports enthusiasm.

I did get a yoga session done this morning but without my running in I feel very incomplete.  Does it count that I worked my ass off this morning working on the crawlspace stuff?

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I know you’re thinking, how much crawlspace stuff could there POSSIBLY STILL BE?

Listen to me. The crawlspace is under half of the house. At least. And that space was filled FILLED I TELL YOU with furniture, rubbermaids, Christmas boxes and random boxes people had just filled and shoved in there.

When I would think about it I’d get really anxious and I wouldn’t be able to sleep. I’ve probably tried to reorganize it a dozen times over the years and so has MT but the real work was going through it and donating/trashing/saving/selling.

That’s what we’ve done. We have it down to less than a third of what we had and it is amazing.  Sean insulated where there wasn’t any and we are putting some good plastic down.

We had a leak under there and there was some bad damage to a lot of the stuff and I had to throw some treasures away. There were a few tears. I reminded myself things are things. Not important. We didn’t lose anything truly valuable and I need to just move on.

I’ll get this done in the next few days. The worst is over. It’s sorted and stacked and I vacuumed. #sighofrelief I absolutely HAD to vacuum so I could breathe. I would organize an entire room just so I could vacuum.

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I’m considering hiring a coach...anybody else ever hired one?  I’m truthfully leaning farther than considering…anyone have great success and highly recommend the practice?

I’m not as concerned with the running, no I don’t consider myself a running expert by any means. But I also don’t consider myself a nutrition expert either and nutrition and strength training are incredibly important to not screw up and that’s something I would screw up.

Thoughts?

Thoughts on a “master runner” who is terribly slow and Celiac hiring a coach? Is that ridiculous?

Anyone else find the term “master runner” kind of…un-fun?

yeah.

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Have you ever read The Five Love Languages? I’d call it a review but I didn’t even really thoroughly read it.

I skimmed it.

Which is to say, to borrow my friend’s words…  “I read super fast in general.. and have learned to only read what I need”.

This.

This would be my version of the skim.

I read what I needed and discarded the rest.

I write a ridiculous amount of words. I figure I’ve lost most of you by now…I should start putting in random test words to see if people are still here.

The synopsis of The 5 Love Languages says the following:

 We speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their “love tank.” Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. – Amazon review

I don’t even think I really read the whole book. I think I just looked at the five options and moved it on to the next person.  The gist is, I didn’t have to read the book to know my languages. I also struggled with the questions because some of them were between two suggestions and maybe one of them would be something that would never ever happen so…I just didn’t pick it. What? Judge me not.

So based on my actual book profile it says I would have a list slightly different…I’d put physical touch just above receiving gifts. Otherwise..the list is right.

In order here they are:
Words of affirmation
Physical touch
quality time
acts of service
receiving gifts
I can tell you this was not how my language list was 30 years ago but I’ve learned to adjust a little. Though that damn words of affirmation still sticks there. Taunting me.

I don’t really know Sean’s, though I could guess…can you really guess someone else’s? I would guess this:
quality time
physical touch
acts of service
words of affirmation
receiving gifts

I did give him the book when I was done with it…he had less interest than I did so clearly we were fascinated. It doesn’t help that we have six full bookshelves in our house…so many books, so little time.

Do I love the book? It’s okay. I think it could definitely be really helpful if two people went into it looking to improve their relationship. The key is both people wanting to work on it and actively looking to make positive changes the other person would recognize.  The book would definitely help them focus on those changes.
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The best runs come on days you didn't feel like running. This is so true! #running #quote:

Yeah…run on. It’s worth the push…

4 Replies to “What is your language? And is there any help for you? Or for me for that matter?”

  1. Wow! Congrats on getting all that work done 🙂

    And I think that book is great. J and I have both read it and actually reference it. We have different love languages and being able to talk about it makes it easier to understand where the other person is coming from. (By the way, I married a psych major 😉 )

    And I like your idea of putting in random test words to see if people are paying attention 😉

    1. Psych major. That’s rough. 😉

      This is the second time I’ve gone over the book. I came across it during the “giant purge of 2016” which is currently happening. I never get rid of books but that’s one that just didn’t really hit it for us I guess.

      1. 😉 In re-reading my comment, I want to clarify that by “great” I mean the concepts are useful. The actual book is pretty ok. 😉

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