The Third Agreement…among other things.

Don’t Make Assumptions.

In the Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz gives us his spiritual direction for living through the Toltec wisdom and enlightenment. We’ve already covered the first two. Here is The Third Agreement:

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. ~source

I think people really struggle with this because it’s very easy to not ask questions. To just walk away and avoid the conflict that may or may not show up. And when you walk away from the possible conflict (which probably isn’t going to happen but you never know) then you make up your own mind what’s going on. We can’t read minds (As much as we try).  It’s just so frustrating when all it takes is someone to talk. Open communication is far more productive to a great relationship than walking away so the weight is really on both parties to work here. It’s easy to say don’t make assumptions but when working with people who don’t talk you are sometimes left with just that situation. So try not to be either.


THE DISHWASHER IS GONE! Cost me $80 because I had a bad valve and no dishwasher to put it in its place but since it needed to be done, I guess it’s okay. (so not but whatever)

why sad, you ask? because it took three weeks and I still don’t have a dishwasher. 

Don’t worry. I’ll be happy again.


Today is day 14 of the Whole30 and yesterday was a horrible awful Celiac day. Random. I went to bed in pain. I woke up okay, maybe ate something weird? Absolutely nothing I ate yesterday was different than anything else I’ve eaten but whatever. I was sick the whole day with stomach pains. I finally feel better right now. I’m a bit afraid to eat but I’m easing into it.


I’m planning a baby shower for my friend and her guest list has upwards of sixty people.


It’s okay. It’s down from the original ninety.


Wish me luck while I embark on this journey of the baby shower the size of a small wedding. 🙂



it’s a gorgeous day and I have no obligations. I’m going to look for a dishwasher. And run. and do the laundry. and clean the kitchen. and dust. and read. and run the dog. and scope out a job and whatever else I can cram into one day.

or…I’ll read.

That might happen.


Today’s post on I <3 to Run.   Could not be more true.

Run on…no matter the reason the run is worth it.

4 Replies to “The Third Agreement…among other things.”

        1. We have a venue. And I plan on stealing most things….I’m very fast. I’m a runner you know. 😉

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