When you royally screw up as a parent.

Yesterday was Shaughnessy’s birthday party and I totally broke her heart.

It was only for a minute but I don’t think I can ever do that again.

It was a calculated move and it backfired on me.

We have a thing with Shaughnessy. She does NOT like to know what her gift is early. She likes to be surprised. So we carry it out until the last second.

Well, truly the only thing on her list this year was a telescope. It’s her current passion. She has it on her Pinterest wish list and Adam and I batted it around for awhile back and forth before he generously offered to let us get it for her. It really did feel like more of a “everyone got this” gift because it’s what everyone wanted to do. It’s all she wanted.

She opened a myriad of other gifts before she got to our gifts,  but we had left the main gift, the telescope, in the car. It was HUGE. I mean…huge. It’s 34 pounds so add packaging to that. It’s 35″ high so imagine packaging with that. It was very large. I wrapped it but nevertheless she would know as soon as she saw it and I wanted her to enjoy everything else and then get to it.

She opened all the gifts and when she got to ours there was a box with boots. Theboy grabbed it and I made a joke he should be careful because that was breakable. I mean…it was a smaller box but maybe it was a small telescope, you know? She opened it and out came…boots.

And her face. Oh man.

She had no interest in boots. None. Zero. Zilch.

All the gifts were lovely. I’m sure the boots were nice but all she wanted was the telescope. Oh her face. I don’t think I’ll ever get it out of my head. She tried to cover but I could tell. Of course, she didn’t know there was another gift right? But that moment of sad was so there. I’ll never do that again. 

Next time that giant box is coming straight through the front door first thing.

I immediately sent Sean out to the car. I couldn’t get the box in the house fast enough. I wished I could beam it in.

Yes, the night was saved but she confirmed her heart had fallen. And I felt like the meanest person in the world.

Moms don’t do that.

So I won’t be doing that ever again. I can’t tell you how awful it felt. She had a bad day anyway so it was just all of it piled on top of that and it obviously got so much better but what a terrible moment.

It all ended well, she loves the telescope. That sucker is waaayyyy bigger than any of us expected it to be. Holy smokes. She’s headed to the mountains today to look at the planets and play with it and life just doesn’t get much better than that, now does it?

Lessons learned. Funny. My kid is 29 years old and I’m still learning parenting lessons.

I need more fingers for the number of times I’ve screwed up. Sad but true. Sheesh. Fingers. I think you can safely say can count my screw ups with an abacus. Many many times over.

But not on purpose and that’s what counts. On the bright side I got caught up in a Reddit thread of terrible things parents have said and done to their kids and now that I’m thoroughly depressed I can honestly say I’m not nearly that terrible and my kids know I am madly in love with them.

Be a better parent and learn.

Love your face, Shaughnessy Lynn. Bonus Theboy in the background.

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Um…it’s 81* in Colorado today. Anyone else wondering where Fall/winter is? I mean..I’m not rushing it but it’s so weird. yeah yeah. Global warming. But still, so weird.

I’m going to go run later because HOT (yes, I’m a wuss) and of course, groceries. And so SO much to do for next week’s Halloween madness. Not the least of which is costume making, Car decorating, Snack producing and so so much more. Good Lord you’d think I had little kids again.

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I have bits and pieces of Sean today. He’s taking a class, working and just over extending himself in general but occasionally I get to see him. It’s my favorite. 🙂

I am off to the store…food for tomorrow you know.

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Really REALLY interesting article on NPR.

Leading Psychosis Expert To His Students: To Avoid Risk, Hold Off On Pot Til 30

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Okay…on that note, have a beautiful Saturday. I know it’s 3 o’clock. I’ve been busy. Don’t judge me.

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